Last week I did NOT want to have sex with my wife.
Here's what I learned...
Did you brush your teeth today?
Why 50 Years of Marriage ≠ A Good Marriage
What's the value of your marriage?
The cost of your marriage license (depending on where you live) was probably around $40.
The average cost of a wedding in the US last year was over $35,000.
If you were to get divorced today, the cost would likely be around $15,000.
Lots of people - including the government, dressmakers, photographers and lawyers - are out there trying to tell you what your marriage is worth… but have you ever stopped to think what the true value of your marriage is?
Our oven caught on fire last night!
Emotional Obesity w/ Laura Coe
If you eat junk food every day and never work out, you're going to become obese, and you'll likely contract diseases like diabetes or heart disease.
What if the same were true about our emotional health? What if there were emotional exercises and healthy emotional foods we should be consuming... and without them we would become emotionally obese?
In this episode of the podcast, I sat down with Laura Coe to talk about emotional obesity, and the analogy translates surprisingly perfectly!
If you want to learn what emotional junk foods you indulge in that are eating away at your relationships and overall emotional health, what healthy emotional foods and exercises look like, and how to create an authentic life you're truly excited about, this is the episode for you!
Show Notes
Laura Coe co-founded Litholink Corporation, a healthcare company serving over 350,000 patients per month nationally. When Litholink sold to a Fortune 500 company, she left corporate America to pursue lifelong passions.
Even while working in corporate healthcare, Laura always specialized in breaking down complex concepts for to make them easy to digest, understand, and apply. Now she channels that unique skill into “translating” philosophy and ancient wisdom – breaking down monumental, life-changing wisdom in a way that everyone can apply to their own lives.
Laura currently devotes her energy toward writing, coaching, helping others implement spiritual teachings in their everyday lives. Her first book, Emotional Obesity, is available for purchase. And now she is the host of the popular podcast, The Art of Authenticity.
4:00 - What is Emotional Obesity?
5:40 - Laura's story of gaining and losing her emotional weight. Wanting to be a philosophy professor, and instead running a tech company... which didn't feel right.
9:30 - How to shed your layers of emotional obesity. What does it mean to live a good life, or be emotionally fulfilled?
10:40 - Many people go on emotional crash diets when they leave their job, divorce their husband/wife dramatically, or make other rash decisions. These do not work.
12:00 - Kids know what they love... and they live it. As adults we start to do things we don't love, and make decisions, and take actions that are inauthentic. Then we wake up and we're in a life we never wanted.
13:10 - Imposter Thoughts: The rules we and others make for ourselves in order for us to be happy.
14:20 - Emotional Junk Food = unhealthy personal narratives... most of them start with, "I should."
19:00 - How to stop your crazy, negative, destructive thoughts
22:45 - Right and wrong thinking and the rules we set for ourselves and others.
24:00 - How to react when you don't have control, and learning what you can and can't control.
29:30 - Emotional diet and exercise: The cure to emotional obesity. (This is not "positive thinking.")
30:30 - Nutritional thoughts and this scene from The Breakup:
32:50 - Learn to appreciate the action over the motivation.
34:00 - The importance of taking action
35:20 - You can experience fear when trying to live an authentic life, especially around things and people that are important to you.
37:00 - Where to start taking action if you want to change your life. Start by identifying your most unhealthy go-to emotional junk food.
38:00 - Try going assumption-free for a week
39:00 - The importance of community and enlisting the help of your friends
40:20 - There's cultural shame in experiencing an emotional challenge
46:10 - When it comes to getting into physical shape, we'd all love to look like a model or celebrity, but those people work out several hours a day. If we want to be healthy emotionally, it's going to require some significant work as well!
Aaron and April Jacob (Nurturing Marriage)
What to do when your partner suffers from depression with Kim and Seth Adam Smith
Depression and mental health is something we are all affected by. We know so little about it, and there isn't a lot of help or resources that have proven to be effective across the board.
The help, support, and resources that do exist are typically for the person suffering from mental illness, and not for the partner, which can leave the partner who isn't battling the illness feeling just as alone and helpless as the person who is.
In this episode Seth and Kim give us a look into how they have navigated depression and mental health in their relationship. They'll tell you what works for them, and what doesn't.
I hope you share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Thanks for listening!
When Dating Coaches Get Married
How Picasso's $179 Million Painting Can Transform Your Marriage
In his lifetime, it’s estimated that Picasso created roughly 50,000 works of art. That’s nearly 2 pieces every day!
It’s easy to assume Picasso’s greatness came as a result of raw talent, a natural gift, or his unique style. But the reality is that the reason Picasso is probably one of 5 famous painters you can name off the top of your head, and the reason his paintings sell for millions, is because he was relentlessly dedicated to his craft.