Have you ever heard 3,000 people gasp at the same time?
Back in September, I interviewed Drs. John and Julie Gottman in front of an audience of 3,000+ people. If you haven’t heard of them, what Michael Jordan is to basketball, they are to .
About 30 minutes into the interview John Gottman dropped a serious truth bomb.
Some new research he’s been doing has led to some findings that shocked the entire room. (Here's a link to that part of the interview.)
John and his team were measuring stress hormones in the urine of young children.
He found that kids with high levels of cortisol and adrenaline in their pee had parents that argued a lot.
He then went on to explain that there’s research that shows that children as young as 3 months old experience higher blood pressure when their parents argue in front of them!
“The kids are carrying around their parents’ conflict with one another.”
If your marriage is struggling it literally HURTS your kids.
Why do I share this with you?
I promise I’m not trying to guilt you.
I know that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Not even the Gottman’s have a perfect marriage.
My hope in sharing this is to show you YOUR MARRIAGE ISN’T JUST ABOUT YOU!
The quality of your marriage matters.
It directly impacts the people around you more than you think!
So, if your marriage is struggling… if you’re feeling lonely, resentful, or burned out…
If you’re having regular arguments, you’re not affectionate towards each other, or you don’t feel like your marriage is THE priority to both you and your partner…
It’s a BIG problem!
I have no qualms in saying it's an emergency.
If your marriage is not in a good place it is actively hurting you, hurting your partner, and it's hurting the people you love the most.
That’s why I send out these emails!
I want to show you the pathway to having a better marriage today than you did yesterday.
Having an amazing marriage makes life so much better for everyone!
I literally wake up every morning hoping to motivate you to treat your partner with more kindness and respect. To maintain healthy boundaries. To be the kind of partner that inspires the love of your life to be your best self.
So take a few seconds right now (that’s all it takes) and think about your marriage.
Is it as good as it could be?
How could you make it better - like right now, today?
If the emotions in your marriage right now were as contagious as the chicken pox, what would you be infecting the people around you with? Connection, purpose, respect, love, encouragement, and joy? Or something else like stress, anger, resentment, apathy, anger, or contempt…